Nervous about your first video call with someone you met online? Ten simple tips for lighting, sound, conversation topics and ending the call on a high note.
A video call is the bridge between a great chat and a real connection. It's normal to feel a little nervous. Here's how to make your first call easy and fun.
Set the scene
- Face a window or a lamp. Light in front of you, never behind.
- Prop your phone at eye level. Nobody wants to look up your nose.
- Check your background for anything you'd rather not share, like mail, laundry or your address.
- Use earphones for clearer sound and more privacy.
Keep the first call short
Fifteen to twenty minutes is perfect. It's long enough to get a feel for each other and short enough to leave you both wanting more. On Dazzlemeet, calls run in 15-minute blocks, which makes a natural check-in point.
Have three easy topics ready
- Something from your chat ("So did you find the best milk tea?")
- Something fun about your day
- A light would-you-rather to break any silence
Be present
Close other apps, don't check notifications, and look at the camera when you talk. Small things, like nodding, laughing and asking follow-ups, make people feel heard.
End on a high
End while it's still going well: "This was really fun, let's do it again." If it didn't click, a kind "Thanks for the chat, take care" is perfectly fine.